Suffering is God’s way of reminding that it is time that you remembered him. He also has a few tricks up his sleeves. Lot of times people are clueless, and the more they try, the more the web gets entangled. Finally, people reach a point of no return. They are absolutely zapped, clueless, and helpless. It all starts with a little pain, and can reach to almost unbearable pain and suffering if you fail to take hints.
You can prevent a lot of future damage once it starts on a little note by just paying him or her a rich tribute for what he or she has done for you. There is absolutely no point in trying to be brave in front of him or her. The more the bravado, the more sufferings you encounter. Start at a little hint, and seek solace, guidance and help from him or her. He or she is just trying to make you remember that he or she is there to help, and a lot of help can come your way. Your entire struggle may be wiped out in a second if you just thank him or her a little for what you have got.
It just takes a little thank you, and nothing more than that. And if you have got lots, then sing paeans for him or her. All this can be explained from a Psychological perspective, but it is better to keep things simple. Just a little prayer a day, and a few notes of thanks will do the trick.